About dating and courtship
When you only are allowed to get to know someone with your parents or a chaperone present, you get to know the Sunday best of the person.
This is in many cases, a very dangerous practice disguised as a perfect formula for a happy and successful marriage.
Dating tries to answer the question, In a dating relationship, there is little if any accountability for the couple and little or no interaction with family members.
The dangers of defrauding can be avoided more successfully, and an honest, open friendship can be nurtured and protected. Since one of the most important decisions we will make is the decision of marriage, we should make every effort to know and do God’s will in this area.
This oblivious self-centeredness can lead only to dissatisfaction, promoting an attitude of lust (taking what I want) rather than the Scriptural attitude of love (giving unselfishly to others).
Consequently, dating opens the door to many temptations.
As they establish guidelines for their relationship, they can more easily recognize that God also holds them responsible to honor one another.
Receiving God’s grace and the support of others strengthens them to maintain their commitment to purity.
(See II Corinthians 5:7, Psalm , Romans , Psalm 13, and I John 4:8.)Because each individual, family, and set of circumstances is unique, each courtship will be unique.