Latter day saints dating websites
So in this 2011 world of “Nice to Tweet you,” many LDS singles are initiating their first encounters in a decidedly digital way.
Between demanding schedules of work, school, family, and church, it can be difficult to stop and smell the potential roses.
“If you try to be someone you think other people are looking for, you’re going to have an epic fail on your hands—and fast.”Maren Timmerman, 30, an LDS single living in California, knows what Coleman is talking about.“I once met a guy, and the pictures he posted of himself were from fi ve years ago,” Timmerman says.
“I thought, ‘If you’re lying about your appearance, what else do you lie about?
“If a person keeps on pressing you for specific information, that’s a big warning sign.”If you’re a single parent, keep those kids a mystery (with the exception of their actual existence).“Your profile will typically say whether or not you have kids, but beyond that, don’t go into details about your children until you’re in an actual relationship,” Snell says.
“Also, don’t post pictures of your kids on your profile.”If the conversation rapidly turns intimate or inappropriate, nix the contact just as quickly.“When people want to meet immediately or late at night, that’s a big red flag.
“It is becoming increasingly difficult for LDS people to meet a potential spouse once they’re out of college,” says Alisa Snell, a dating coach and marriage and family therapist in Utah.
“Don’t build your whole profile off of how many callings you’ve had or inspirational quotes solely from the scriptures.
Same goes for people who engage in sexual conversations,” Snell says.
“No one who wants a real relationship is going to godown that road.”Steve Carter, 32, couldn’t agree more.“We have to be careful,” says the Utah single, who has dated online for the last two years.
“I’m not saying you have to tell all your deepest secrets, but you can’t misrepresent yourself.”What’s more, it’s not good enough to just be honest.
You have to be authentic.“Be yourself,” Coleman says.“Going online opens up possibilities to meet more people.”Need another perk?