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I based everything on the bio and nothing on looks. We’re so trained to focus on photos and how people look on these apps, but I knew if I was going to build friendships, I wanted them to be set on a foundation of mutual interest rather than outward appearance.
Being in a large city, I never felt like I was “running out of options” when I was swiping.
My Bumble BFF experience wasn’t exactly what I was expecting.
While I didn’t really make any new friends from the app, it got me in a mindset to take chances and meet people IRL, so I can’t say the experience was totally unsuccessful.
While I am always down for a free table and drinks, I feel like if I already had a “group of girls” I probably wouldn’t be on Bumble BFF… Not meeting as many people (or anyone really) started to get to me.
People get uncomfortable and bored with dating apps all the time, so why is it so weird that I’m feeling the same way toward a friend app?
After looking at what felt like hundreds of photos of girls in their cap and gown from graduation, on some vacation with their boyfriends, or sipping a mimosa (Bumble BFF girls LOVE brunch! What about me makes all these girls not want to be my friend? Do I not have enough photos that make me look cute and fun?! I started beating myself up over not meeting anyone that I started feeling like a friendless loser who was destined to sit at home and watch every new Netflix movie alone.
I got into a comparison mindset, thinking that I needed to have a profile more like her or her, and then, I’d make friends.
When I originally set my location parameters to only a few miles, there were for sure less, but as I increased it to span basically the whole city of Chicago, I was in just about an endless pool of potential brunch buddies. ), I either got no response back or we said two lines and they stopped responding.
However, I got to a point after a while where I pretty much swiped right on everyone regardless of if it seemed like we’d be a good fit. Yeah, this is where my experience begins to dwindle a little bit from apps dedicated to dating. I noticed a lot of my matches were looking for roommates or were promoters at clubs and wanted me to “get a group of girls together” for a free table and drinks.It’s hard to not sound basic and like everyone else when you truly do want all of those things.