Why is online dating so hard
Some, back in the early days of online dating (lo those dark days of the late 90s and early 00s), were evil and would sell a limited number of messages; if you sent out a message and didn’t hear back, well, tough shit Charlie, you just blew a buck (or whatever the per-unit cost was). were intended as a way of trying to get someone to message so that you could chat without wasting your hard-earned money.
Needless to say, it was kind of an insult even back then; nothing screams romance more than “I’m interested in you but not enough to actually to join the site.” Fortunately most sites seem to have wised up and charge a subscription fee instead, but the vestigal organ that is the “wink” hangs in there like an appendix and does nothing but cause trouble.
I’m a fan of the dating site email template – less of a form letter and more of a very easily customizable email that you send out in order to save time.
I’ve used a longer one in my day, but over the years, I’ve streamlined it down even further.
‘I think a lot of women are insecure these days, because there’s so much pressure from social media to look good and be perfect.
Women don’t feel confident enough to message good-looking guys.
It may not sound like the most tear-jerking plight but research from Oxford University has found that men who consider themselves a 10/10 receive fewer messages than men who view themselves as an average-looking 5/10.
‘It feels like no one will give you a chance.’ The Oxford University findings came from analysis of the habits of more than 150,000 straight daters over a ten-year period on dating site, Eharmony.
Maybe it’s time we all stop judging a book by its cover.